Am I merciful? Am I forgiving? These are extremely important questions. In fact, how we answer these questions has huge implications for the state of our souls. Listen to some words from the book of Matthew.
"Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy." (5:7)
"For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions." (6:14-15)
"It is not the healthy who need a physician, but those who are sick. But go and learn what this means: 'I desire mercy, and not sacrifice,' for I did not come to call the righteous, but sinners." (9:12-13)
"And his lord, moved with anger, handed him over to the torturers until he should repay all that was owed him. My heavenly Father will also do the same to you, if each of you does not forgive his brother from your heart." (18:34-35)
Why is it that we can not receive mercy unless we have first been merciful? So that we don't misunderstand the text and think that God's forgiveness of us is based on our forgiving others, let's restate the point. Only those who know how much they have been forgiven are able to forgive others. And if this is true, then the inverse must be as well, which is, if we do not know how to forgive others, then we have not known forgiveness.
What a scary thing to consider. Are you able to forgive and let go of a grudge? Are you able to love the unloveable? Consider God's mercy in Jesus Christ. How rich, full, wide, and deep that mercy and forgiveness is. That while you were still yet a sinner Christ died for you. Not based on how good you are or what you have accomplished. Rather because of your lust, your lying, your hatefulness, your pride, your vanity, your dirty little secret, Jesus died for you. And yet we as "Christians" can be so merciless, so unforgiving. We get upset about another church's style. We get upset because we were slighted by a friend. We get upset because someone didn't like our ideas. We upset because that person caused us personal emotional injury.
What did you expect? They are forgiven, just like you. And if they are forgiven, it means they have sinned. And if they have sinned, until they become fully mature in Christ, they will continue to battle sin. But on the other hand, they are forgiven, just like you. And if you are forgiven, then you should in turn find it quite easy to forgive an equally sinful, equally forgiven brother or sister. I am praying that I can learn what real mercy is all about. That I could know the forgiveness that God offers so that I may extend that same forgiveness to all those who I come into contact with.