Confess, Repent, Forgive, Reconcile

Lately I have been learning some valuable lessons about how we grow in discipleship with one another.  Probably the main lesson is something I want to share here.  When fighting sin in our lives as a community, I believe there are four things we should strive for through the power of the Holy Spirit.  I believe these four things are meant to build on one another.

1)Confess

Confession is more than talking to a priest or admitting to God that you did something bad.  We must confess our sin to one another, admitting that we do not worship Jesus as we should.  This part of confession is the admission that we are sinners in need of a savior.  As John writes in I John 1:9, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."  If we are unable to confess our sin, then we are still hiding behind the lie that we have no need for a savior.  John continues in verse 10, "If we say we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us."  Confessing, or admitting to, our sin is crucial to our growth in knowing our need for Jesus.

Confession is also confessing that Jesus is Lord.  This means that we admit that He has defeated sin and death and is Lord over our sin.  Confessing Jesus is vital to reminding ourselves of the Gospel that Jesus is glorious because He has power over sin.  Otherwise, in our confession of sin, we will be left to think we have to fight it on our own.  But we fight sin by the power of the Holy Spirit, which is the same power that rose Jesus from the dead.  Without confessing Jesus as our Lord, we do not have the power of the Holy Spirit at work in us.  John says in I John 4:15, "Whoever confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God."  To fight sin, we must start by confessing that sin and then confessing that Jesus is Lord over the sin.

2)Repent

To repent means to turn around and head in a different direction.  Once we have confessed our sin, we must turn from it.  Biblical repentance is a result of God's kindness, revealing to us how far from Him we actually are (Romans 2:4).  Being so far from Him, we can't possibly know Him.  And knowing the Father and Jesus is the very meaning of life (John 17:3).  So, the sight of sin should grieve us to the point of turning from it and never wanting to see it again.  If we are grieved because someone calls out our sin, we will never really turn from it.  But if we realize how greatly we have offended God in our sinning, we will turn from it to pursue Jesus.  As Paul says in II Corinthians 7:9-10, "As it is, I rejoice, not because you were grieved, but because you were grieved into repenting. For you felt a godly grief, so that you suffered no loss through us. For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret, whereas worldly grief produces death."

Repentance is more than turning away from our sin.  If this is all we do and have no vision for where we are going, we are doomed to make a 360 and head back for sin.  That is why Jesus came, to reveal the mysteries of God.  He came to save sinners, so that they might have life and have it to the fullest.  Paul tells the church in Thessalonica, "you turned to God from idols to serve the living and true God."  We don't just turn our back on sin, we now live in the power of God serving Him.  In repenting from sin, we turn away from it, but then we ask ourselves, "what will I pursue in Christ?"  Do we need to trust that He is ultimately good?  That He is more gracious than anyone else?  That He is greater than all my circumstances?  That He is more glorious than everyone else?  Turn from sin and turn towards our loving Savior.

3)Forgive

As we turn from our sin and turn towards Jesus, we have to be reminded that we have been forgiven for our sin.  As John said, if we confess our sin, He is faithful and just to forgive us.  Most of us hang on to sin and keep looking back because we do not believe the gospel enough.  The gospel is the good news that for God's glory, Jesus died for our sin and was resurrected, so we might move from death to life.  We have been forgiven so we might live.  Jesus has already saved us from the penalty of sin, so we do not have to punish ourselves.  Colossians 1:13-14, "He has delivered us from the domain of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of his beloved Son, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins." We should accept this forgiveness freely given in Christ, not trample it by punishing ourselves over sin.

We also must seek to forgive others as we overcome sin in our life.  Satan will attempt to lie to us, telling us that the blame for sin is laid at the feet of others.  But we take responsibility for our own sin.  And if anyone has sinned against us, we must remember that we are not their judge.  If Christ has forgiven us, how can we not forgive others?  To grow in our discipleship means to forgive others, just as we have been forgiven.  Ephesians 4:32, "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you."

4)Reconcile

The end result in all of this is to be reconciled.  This is exactly the ministry that Jesus came to do, to reconcile lost humanity to God.  His ministry was one of reconciliation.  Know that if we walk through confession, repentance, and forgiveness, we will be reconciled to God.  God reconciled us while we were His enemies through the death of Jesus.  He holds together that reconciliation through the resurrection.  Romans 5:10, "For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, now that we are reconciled, shall we be saved by his life."  So worship God!  If we believe that God has done all this in Jesus, then there is no condemnation.  We are free to be with our God.  Reconciliation.

If we are reconciled to God, we can be reconciled to one another.  We are ministers of reconciliation, seeking to bring others into unity through Jesus.  The work of Jesus was to save sinners and reconcile them to God.  But this has a byproduct as well.  Reconciled sinners are also reconciled to one another.  And as a reconciled community, we stand as a testimony to the redeeming, unifying work of Jesus to bring peace to all men.  Paul says it best in II Corinthians 5:17-21

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation. Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God. For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.

Elders and the Church

What is an elder?

            The concept of Elder (aged, mature, example among the people) is definitely tied to the concept of overseer (supervisor, looks after) and shepherd (pastoring the flock).  However, in I Peter 5, Elder is the noun, oversight and shepherd are the verbs.  We should be careful not to assign titles where they are unnecessary.  The less titles in the church the better.

            Taking a broad overview of scripture leads me to this conclusion.  Elders are mature men of the faith, equipped and called by God to set an example for the church in word and deed.

            This means that they are to be examples of what it is to follow Christ, prior to being recognized as an elder.  Whether it is an outsider or part of the family, others should look at an elder and think, “that is what it means to be a Christian.”  Not perfection, but a Gospel-centered, humble lifestyle that seeks to give God glory in every area.

            It also means that they should already be teaching others how to follow Christ.  They should be leading a Gospel Community, regularly involved with both believers and unbelievers.  All of their relationships should be intentional disciple making relationships.  One should be recognized as an elder among the people, not handed a title.

What does an elder do?

            In 1 Timothy 3, the term elder is not used, but the noun form of overseer is.  The description of this “office” is very similar to Titus 1 where Paul writes about elders.  It is probably safe to assume that the usage of Elder and Overseer is fairly interchangeable.  This makes a great deal of sense based on the OT usage of elders.  They were to look after the people, make judgments, and lead families in following God’s ways.

            It would seem that the responsibility of an elder should be to oversee the Gospel Communities.  This is where we live out our faith.  The best way to do this would be through two methods.

1)  Coaching the Gospel Community leaders in a cluster

2)  Meeting regularly to discuss matters related to the extended church family (teaching, discipline, support, planting, sending, etc)

            Elders, like everyone else in the church, should work within their gifting.  Some are teachers, some are pastors, some are prophets, etc.  No two elders are alike.  We must celebrate our differences so we can become a more holistic body.  Because of this, some elders will be paid by the church, some will not.  Some will focus on the gathering, some on church planting, some on global missions, some on gospel communities.  It will depend largely on their gifting by the Spirit.  What a freeing concept!

How do we recognize elders?

            As mentioned before, men become elders not through titles or elections, but through living as an example.  Therefore, we do not appoint, approve, or vote in an elder, rather we recognize elders that God has raised up.  They should be confirmed through a system.

            I Timothy 3 says, “if anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task.”  The aspiration to be recognized as an elder should first come from the individual.  They may be encouraged by others and even “recruited” by current elders, but ultimately the individual should have to take the first step.

            Once they have submitted themselves, the elders should conduct a thorough investigation.  How are they doing leading their family?  How are they doing leading their Gospel Community?  What kind of reputation do they have at work or in their neighborhood?  This process should involve interviewing both the potential elder, his family, his Gospel Community, and several outsiders.

            After enough information has been gathered about the potential elder, the elder body should discuss whether the individual meets the criteria of scripture.  There are other factors that should come into play as well.  The 4 C’s (from North Point):

            -Character (I Tim 3, Titus 1, and I Peter 5)

            -Competence (can they coach others and teach people)

            -Chemistry (is “now” the right time for them with the current team)

            -Culture (do we agree doctrinally and philosophically)

How long should an elder serve?

            When we see the church as family, this question seems a bit odd.  Eldership is a role that the elder should continually aspire to.  In fact, if at any point he does not want the responsibility of eldership, he has neglected the first qualification in I Timothy 3.  Elders are elders for life, because that is who they are.

            However, because being an elder is based on who you are and not what you do, if the individual ceases to be worthy of the recognition of elder, he should also be stripped of the title.  All elders should be formally evaluated yearly and informally evaluated every day.  If the elder is failing to fulfill his calling as an elder, he needs to repent and take appropriate action.  If he refuses to act on his own, then the other elders must take actions to bring him to repentance and reconciliation.